The Parent's Guide to the Modern World E-Book

Richard Daniel Curtis

• Herausgeber: Clink Street Publishing
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2017

Beschreibung

Raising a child in the 21st Century is scary! There are so many threats to your adolescent that you worry about what they are up to in their bedroom, let alone when they are out with their friends. The world is so different than when we grew up, young people nowadays have different expectations about life and use so much technology. It's no wonder we feel overwhelmed at times. Even things that were simple have got more complicated, issues like gender identity or sex. It's hard to know where to start with technology, every time you feel you have a grip on what your child is into, they talk about something else you've never heard of. Life as a parent is overwhelming! The Parent's Guide to the Modern World gives you the answers to the worries you haven't even realised you have. Starting with a section on how your child's brain develops and explaining why their personality changes so much during puberty. It even helps you to structure any difficult conversations you need to have with your teen or soon to be teen. The book then goes through over thirty different aspects of the modern world, telling you about the risks associated with each, plus the dos and don'ts for you as parents. Following this, part three focusses on the predictions for the world your child will be an adult in; helping you to understand the things you can do now to give them the best chances in life. Finally, the book contains a handy glossary of terms your young person might be using. Worried about how to help your child understand these risks? Why not buy them the sister book The Young Person's Guide to the Modern World.

Leseprobe

The parent’s guide to the Modern World

The indispensable book for every parent of teens or soon to be teens

By Richard Daniel Curtis

Illustrated by Paul J Smith & Maggie Qiu

Contents

Title PageForewordIntroductionPart One - The development of a child’s personalityTheir brainParts of the brainPrior to birthThe early years and childhoodPre-adolescenceDuring adolescenceAfter adolescenceSocial and emotional developmentSelf-identityRecognising the rights of othersInteracting with othersRecognising the needs of othersReforming sense of identityHaving a difficult conversation with your childInformation giving conversationsProblem solving conversationsPart Two – The Parent’s Guide to the Modern WorldSocial lives, community and the wider worldGangsKnives and weaponsDrugsGenderSexualityTerrorismRadicalisationPhonesSmartphonesInstant messaging and chatInstant broadcasting (livecasting)The InternetBlogsCollaborative sitesPornographyHackingPirated software, music and filmsThe Dark WebThe Internet of ThingsSocial mediaTrolling and online bullyingFacebookMySpaceTwitterPinterest and InstagramImmersive technology and experiencesVirtual Reality3D PrintingBrain-computer interfacesInteractive eyewearSpeech recognitionGesture recognitionGamingHologramsRobotsArtificial IntelligenceDronesPart Three – Helping your child to succeed in the futureGeneral rules for technologyWhat do we need to do to help our children prepare for the future?EducationJobsSelf-awarenessFinancesAttitude to technologyInteracting with othersKey pointsPart Four – GlossaryBioCopyright

Foreword

Growing up in a little town in South Carolina, I was fortunate to have a mom who pushed me to succeed. My mom was (and still is) my biggest mentor. She saw potential in me that I didn’t see in myself at the time, and I wouldn’t be standing here today without her support and guidance. If she wasn’t such a big force in my life, especially as a teenager, I may have had the same fate as my peers who struggled with drug addiction and alcoholism, some still to this day. My mom showed that she understood me, and just that little bit of trust and understanding made the biggest difference in my life as a teenager.

Now, as a father of three sons, two of whom are teenagers, I try my hardest to support them like my mom did for me. I try to meet them at their level and understand where they are coming from so I can help guide them to where they need to be. Parenting teenagers is a tough job at times. In fact, I can honestly say it makes winning three Super Bowls in the NFL look easy!

There is so much to learn and know as a parent, and the advent of technology has drastically changed parenting. In some ways, making it even more challenging to help guide your child through adolescence. Teenagers have always faced societal pressures as they try to fit in with their peers. They must learn the right ways to manage the typical pressures and social anxiety that come along with adolescence, while dealing with social media pressures, bullying, weapons, and gangs. The availability of material online on these topics is extensive. Some of it can be instructive, but some can be harmful. So, it is important to be able to help them learn how to effectively sort through this information.

Hopefully as a parent, you won’t run into every one these issues with your teenager, but there will be a couple situations that will resonate with any parent given some of the issues that their children come home with and the battles that they face every day. We all want to make sure that our children grow up to be healthy adults who make good decisions. It’s important that we understand a little bit of the mechanics behind some of the decisions our teens face and how we can handle these situations better to help raise happy healthy kids into adulthood.

While nothing takes the place of great parenting, this guide gives insight as to how to better parent. It not only explains your teenager’s brain and development, but offers practical solutions for some of the challenges we face as parents; whether it’s about talking to your teens about overusing technology, spending too much time on their smartphones, dealing with drug use or getting mixed up in other harmful things. It provides you with the tools to better understand why they feel how they do and how to address some of these issues in a much more thoughtful and emotional way. This will ultimately result in more effective parenting and hopefully help you guide your teens down the right path, like my mom did for me and like I try to do for my own kids.

Troy Brown Father of 3 and former New England Patriot and 3x Super Bowl Champion

Introduction

The 21st century is a scary time for parents to be raising children. Technology is advancing at a tremendous rate and society around us is changing on a daily basis. Now, unlike at any other time, there are threats for children inside their family homes, as well as in the community. Parents feel like they have to monitor their child’s every action. They worry about what their child is up to in their bedrooms far more than what they do when they’re playing with their friends in the park, but then they get accused of being over protective.

Things humans only ever dreamed of are now a daily part of reality. New technology is emerging every day and the world is changing as a result. Computers have moved from being one per house, to multiple devices around the house and in pockets. Even the most technologically-minded parents are struggling to keep up to date with the technology that their child is using.

The boundaries in society have shifted, for example it is accepted that celebrities are now accessible. With just a few taps on the computers in someone’s pockets they can find out what their favourite actress had for dinner and where they go for their daily jog. In fact, with very little effort it is possible to send them a message and there’s an increasing likelihood that they’ll reply. Privacy as people know it is coming to an end.

The way humans communicate with each other is also changing. It was only a few years ago that there was one phone line in the house and families were queueing to use it at peak times. Nowadays, many young people don’t even consider having a phone line installed as they are far more used to being accessible via the device in their pockets. This has had an effect on society’s expectations of contacting each other. Immediacy is the watch word; people are expected to be contactable immediately and in return they expect to receive information immediately. Employers even provide staff with technology that facilitates their ability to send their staff emails to read late at night or early in the morning. Although, in France a law has been passed recently to give employees the right to disconnect and ignore these out of work emails.

People socialise differently in the modern world. Social media allows friends to keep up to date on the relevant (and sometimes irrelevant) events in the lives of their friends. The conversations people have when they see friends now are very different and there is almost an unwritten expectation to have read their posts or their blog. Likewise, the gap between seeing friends is widening as they’re able to keep up to date with their news and react to it by pressing ‘Like’ on their latest post. Technology gives society a lot more immediacy when interacting with friends, but also a greater distance at times too.

People’s working lives have had to change: the speed at which employees process things has increased as technology has advanced, and many tasks are being automated. There is an expectation of a lot more immediacy in actions and reactions. Employees are expected to be completing tasks whilst monitoring busy inboxes at the same time. They’re expected to know information and reply to requests and demands with greater immediacy. There is an inherent expectation to daily lives that people multi-task well at all times of the day. It is common for people to be answering something on their smartphone at the same time as having a conversation without even an eyebrow being raised nowadays.

The modern world is a very different place from the world people grew up in. Those that have children have to not only learn all of these new skills themselves, they have to try and keep ahead of their children and what they are up to. Many young people talk to their parents about technology the adults only vaguely know about, and adults are completely unskilled at helping them make safe choices about this new technology.

So that is why this book was written, as a guide to the 21st century for parents struggling to understand it themselves. It’s not a book written to be read cover to cover in one sitting; a parent’s life is too busy for that. Instead it is a guide to the various things that parents will encounter to pick and choose from. The contents are certainly not exhaustive and, as with anything of this nature, there will be new technologies that are released.

The book is split into four parts. Part one focuses on a child’s social, emotional and brain development from the womb until adulthood. Part two gives advice on various aspects of life in the 21st century. Part three gives ideas about things parents can be doing to help prepare their child for the future, and finally part four is a handy glossary for any parents struggling with the phrases their teen is using.

Richard Daniel Curtis March 2017

Part One - The development of a child’s personality