The Pick-Up Game E-Book

Robert King

• Herausgeber: CICO Books
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2014

Beschreibung

A tried-and-tested programme to help men become confident and skilled at approaching and talking to any woman. Imagine having the confidence to approach any woman. Imagine knowing exactly what to say to her. Imagine looking forward to a date, rather than it filling you with dread. With Robert King's methods all of this can become a reality. Robert King is an ordinary guy, who has become a master of picking up and dating attractive women and has brought dating success to thousands of men. In The Pick-Up Game he shares his methods. Learn what to say to a woman you like, how to interact socially and how to handle the logistics of approaching and spending time with women. Then learn the Zen way of letting go, especially when under pressure socially, and how not to try too hard to make something work - simply let it all unfold naturally. With Robert's techniques you will gain total confidence in yourself, learn to read and understand women and maximize every date you go on. Whatever your goal - whether it's to have more fun, more sex or a serious relationship - look no further than this invaluable book. You really can become a success with women.Robert King read his first self-help book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, at the age of 19 and this sparked his desire for personal transformation. Naturally shy and reserved, after university Robert discovered the pick-up artist community and soon cultivated a natural style with women. After teaching at other pick-up companies and becoming "wings" with the best pick-up artists in the community he set up his own company www.puamethod.com, which has featured in The Sunday Times and The Sun newspapers and on various television programmes. He has taught close to 1,000 students natural pick up.

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The proven way to become skilled at approaching and dating women

ROBERT KING

Published in 2012 by CICO Books

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CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

The Pick-up Artist Method

My Story

The Natural Approach

How to Use this Book

CHAPTER 1: What is a Women Attracted to in a Man?

THE SURRENDER

CHAPTER 2: Zen

CHAPTER 3: The Power of Maybe

CHAPTER 4: Living with Less is More

CHAPTER 5: Stop the Thought Tree from Taking Root

CHAPTER 6: Stop Pushing My Buttons

CHAPTER 7: Green Vegan Pick Up Machine

THE ACTION

CHAPTER 8: Approach Anxiety

CHAPTER 9: Momentum

CHAPTER 10: PUA Method Interaction

CHAPTER 11: Become a Master Anticipator

CHAPTER 12: Qualification

CHAPTER 13: Cold Reading

CHAPTER 14: Statements of Sexual Intent

CHAPTER 15: Going out with Friends

Final Thoughts

Index

Acknowledgments

Further Reading

THE PICK-UP ARTIST METHOD

Then he spotted her, the hottest woman in the bar, surrounded by four alpha men. She would have been a seemingly impossible conquest to someone who hadn’t been trained in the pick-up arts. Ever since he first started to meditate he had become more centered and happy, freed from a never-ending barrage of useless thoughts and emotions. He was no longer a slave to the overactive mind that had imprisoned him for so long. Seeing the world clearly and truly, he laughed and approached.

His footing was strong and his purpose was clear; nothing out of the ordinary was happening. Like the Red Sea, the men parted without a word. His positive energy immediately drew her in, his first words made her laugh, and his touch was soft but sure. She would be his.

He felt no social pressure; everybody was his friend. To others it probably appeared that she already knew him. To the eye of a quality instructor this was clearly a masterful approach.

He was doing most of the talking, she was holding back, trying not to blow her chance. The other men just watched; they appeared to make some sarcastic comments to each other. They weren’t a threat, merely spectators. Despite her beauty his communication was authentic and confident. She had not experienced this kind of approach before and so felt attracted to him. Taking her hand he then led her to the other side of the bar. She shouted something back to the guys, “It’s an old friend, don’t worry.” She was handling the logistics for him.

A PUA method pick-up is undetectable, natural, authentic, and genuine. This book outlines every element required for you to be able to master success with women.

I’ve dedicated the last nine years of my life to this area, initially for my own development and now to teach it. All of the information found within this book is not theory or statistics. It is the accumulation of many years of infield experience with professional pick-up artists. It has all been tested with success in over thirty different countries.

I took it upon myself to test everything available, talking to women every day for seven years. I think this is most relevant because I was never confident or social, plus I’m now balding. Yet, despite the overwhelming odds, I’ve dated strippers, models, glamor models, and a famous singer-songwriter, and I’ve been fortunate enough to meet some amazing women on my journey.

Learning how to become great with women is just like learning any other skill set. It is the same as learning to play tennis, chess, or a musical instrument. It takes time, patience, and, most importantly, requires a good teacher. Having a quality teacher can take years off somebody’s natural learning curve. I guarantee that by reading this book you will become much better with women and dating.

Before reading the rest of the book, make sure that you read the PUA Method Terminology section on the opposite page and familiarize yourself with the terms.

PUA METHOD TERMINOLOGY

AFC—Average frustrated chump: A man who is currently getting limited success with women.

AMOG—Alpha Male of Group: An aggressive male who is competing for the attention of the woman you are interested in.

Approaching: Starting a conversation with a woman or group of people.

DHV—Demonstration of higher value: Actively showcasing the qualities you have that women will find attractive.

Direct: Showing interest straightaway when approaching a woman.

DLV—Demonstration of lower value: Revealing negative traits to women that they will find unattractive.

IOI—Indicator of interest: A signal from a woman that she is interested in you. Examples of this can be her laughing, playing with her hair, or asking you a question.

Indirect: Coming in under the radar when approaching a woman.

Kino: Physically touching someone.

Natural: A man with a lot of alpha-male characteristics. He will have strong core confidence and cool personality traits. He will usually do very well in his social circle but his approaches are often hit and miss. He sometimes manages to say and do the right things, but sometimes he does not.

Opening: Approaching a woman or group of people.

PUA: Pick-up artist.

Routine: A memorized script or game that you use when talking to women.

Routine stack: A number of memorized games, lines, and stories that you can use when in an interaction.

Set: A group of people.

Social proof: Increasing your attractiveness through social alliances; demonstrating that other women are sexually interested in you.

Social robot: A man who has learned a lot of material and taken on the personality of a seduction guru. He does well with women for the first few hours but can’t get into relationships and has trouble connecting with people. The robot lives in fear that the person he is talking to will discover his unloved self.

Target: The girl that you are interested in.

Wing: Someone you go out with to meet women.

Zen pick-up artist: A man with strong alpha-male characteristics, who is also very socially calibrated. He has a lot of experience in approaching women and has set sound bites that he uses to generate attraction. He has no problem creating successful relationships; in fact, everybody wants to be around him. He is phenomenally successful at approaching and knows exactly how to give himself the best chance of getting the woman he desires. This man is detached from the outcome and true to himself, but knows how to consistently demonstrate his personality effectively.

MY STORY

Would you believe me if I told you that it is possible to get any woman to feel attracted to you? No? Well, let’s take a brief look at my life. Everything that I’ve written about here actually happened.

WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

I was a chubby nitwit as a child, low in confidence, but always asking questions. Born and raised in a middle-class family in Surrey, England, I lived with my mum, dad, and brother in a medium-size village that had a population of a few thousand people. Mum and Dad didn’t have much but through their hard work, often working two jobs at once, they gave my brother and me the best possible head starts in life. We were raised in a nice, smallish village, with plenty of green trees. It was split in two by a road that carried people to work in the neighboring towns. There was just enough to do to stop me from discovering drugs, but very little that I could identify with. There were no landmarks, no soccer stadium, nor anything that was famous in the area. So from a young age I started to form my own identity, which was all about my experiences and nothing to do with cultural influences.

My first school was small and looked like a church. It was situated at the end of my street, about eight houses away. Despite it only being a one-minute walk away, I was usually one of the last to arrive at school in the morning. I’m not sure why I was always late. It could’ve been because I didn’t like it or that I didn’t like the feeling of having to go.

MY FIRST CRUSH

I was about seven when I had my first crush. I remember being the first boy in my class to start obviously wanting girls. I wasn’t the most alpha male, far from it. I think the wanting was driven more from a desire to be loved.

This crush was on a girl in my class called Nicola. She had blonde hair, blue eyes, and a big toothy smile. We’d often sit next to each other and even held hands once or twice. I remember liking her smell, which was a cross between candy and perfume. This romance reached its sexual peak one afternoon when she landed a peck on my lips. Sadly, I found out a week later that she had accepted a ring and wedding proposal from a boy named William. I didn’t much like this William and so told my friend Jason that I’d caught William urinating in the school hall. A scandal like that for a seven-year-old would probably be like going round your friend’s house and doing a dump on his carpet.

I didn’t manage to salvage my relationship with Nicola and I heard that she ended up kissing a boy who lived down her street—with tongues and everything. Despite this setback I’d decided that girls were definitely worth pursuing and my arousal mechanism tuned in.

SOLITARY AND SOCIAL

I didn’t care for middle or secondary school, and mostly treated them a little like prison. I put my head down and did my time, while trying not to fall in with the wrong crowd. I found school stifling and pointless, and I had the constant feeling of anxiety. I also had no idea what I wanted to do with my life, and didn’t see how reading Shakespeare would help with that.

I can remember my friends and I being cheeky in class on several occasions. Once during a drama lesson we were discussing ideas for the next school production, sitting around in a circle and talking about the possible characters for a detective play. During this discussion, my friend Tristan shouted out loud that Adam had a hard-on and everyone turned to look. Adam maintains that the bulge was caused by the material that his pants were made of and the angle at which he was sitting. This was a weak plea indeed from someone sitting opposite the only girl in class who had a slight development of cleavage. The damage had been done and the class erupted into laughter. Trying to restore order, the teacher asked what props the detective would need. I cheekily decided to say that a girl in our class called Janet should be the detective’s dog. This apparently wasn’t the answer that the teacher was looking for, and I was banished to stand and face the wall for the remainder of the lesson. Ironically, showing off and taking things too far is now what I do for a living.

Another dodgy attention-seeking exploit, which I helped co-invent with my friend Robert, was a game called Milk Shakes. It was simple to play. You had to run up behind someone, shout “Milk Shake!” and then shake them up and down. In the beginning this game had innocent intentions, but, just like in the film Fight Club, things got out of hand. Our classmates loved it and it was very popular for a whole summer. I think this might have been the time it clicked for me that being fun is a useful attribute to have when with girls. I didn’t think of this game as sexual but it does seem a little odd that this is how I chose to express myself socially back then.

Looking back at my school life it might seem like I was social and popular. This wasn’t the case, but there were moments of glory in what was an OK but generally very quiet and shy existence. I had mainly male friends and went through periods of feeling social and then seeking solitude. I often sought refuge in the company of animals, my fat cat called Pickles, or the newts in the pond at the front of the house. During my early teens a big, dumb, friendly dog would interest me a lot more than going to a social club. These days I go crazy if I sit in the house for longer than a day. I have to be social. I’ve discovered that being social is a learned behavior and it is something I help students with regularly.

THE FIRST TIME

I lost my virginity at the age of seventeen, ironically just after I got back from a vacation in Magaluf (or as I was told by my friends when booking it, “Shagaluf”), Majorca. Despite some effort, none of us got laid on that vacation. I did get some kissing action due to the girls being very friendly, but I don’t think I was in the “I-could-actually-have-sex” headspace. The thought didn’t even cross my mind. I was just there for a bit of sun, sea, and sand.

When I returned I met up with my sort-of-girlfriend Kerry. We’d hung out about three times. She had a bit of acne but was definitely a pretty girl, with brown hair and a toned body. I remember her coming round to watch TV and then asking, “What would you like to do?” If my memory serves me correctly, I simply gestured toward my bedroom and that was that.

The sex was bad and I didn’t finish. She said that she had had sex before but I guessed it wasn’t many times. We were definitely not porn stars and I was understandably nervous. I remember about ten minutes in looking at the clock, trying to work out how much time there was until my favorite TV show Neighbours was going to start. It was the episode where Harold got run over. I rolled over, turned on the television, and that was that. She broke up with me a few weeks later.

THE UNIVERSITY YEARS

My next sexual experiences didn’t come until I arrived at Southampton University. I studied software engineering but it was never my passion. When it was time to submit our university applications I asked my friend Alan, “What are you doing?” He replied, “Software engineering.” I decided to do the same as this would alleviate me of any responsibility of thinking for myself. So, I became a software engineer. Looking back it seems bizarre that I was so whimsical about my future. I just had no idea what I wanted to do. However, the computer skills that I subsequently learned have allowed me to reach you today, so maybe it wasn’t a complete waste of time after all and, more importantly, it made me realize that you have to work out what you want in life, particularly when it comes to dating.

My time at university is when I properly buckled down and started practicing the pick-up lines. I remember going out at least every other night in the first year of university, sometimes it was every night. No woman was spared from me and my humorous pick-up lines. Back then there was no dating material available, so I would invent my own techniques when I went out. This dating creativity was all driven by my huge desire to feel loved. A favorite technique of mine and my friend Andy was to get drunk and then take some ice from a glass, approach a woman, and then throw the ice on the floor in front of her. Then in my smoothest voice I’d say, “Now that I’ve broken the ice, hi, my name is Rob.” I believe this classic was stolen from a television show and it amused me greatly.

We also developed another approach. We would go to a quiet pub and order tap waters. We’d look to see which women we liked and then ask the bartender to take the tap waters to them and say it was from the gentlemen at the bar. As the tap waters were delivered, we would pose, trying to look cool. It was funny and actually a good way to open. I recommend it! But we’d rarely be confident enough to start a conversation with the women afterward. Despite my efforts, at my best I was socially awkward and at my worst I was terrible with women.

I remember making some awful dating blunders. For example, I was on a date in a bar with a petite blonde woman and needed to use the restroom. After disposing of the overpriced beer I’d drunk earlier, I went to wash my hands. I personally think it’s credit to me for even washing my hands as I’m sure lots of you filthy buggers wouldn’t even bother. Anyway, the soap dispenser was wall mounted with a press-down pump mechanism. On pressing down, a shot of white liquid hand soap squirted out at great speed, landing in the center of my shirt. It was not dissimilar looking to the “love” that covered the socks that were lying under my bed at home. Panicking, I applied water to the affected area, which only caused the soap to foam. The more water I added, the larger the area became, and the more foam was produced. I was in that restroom for about fifteen minutes and came out with one half of my shirt soaked. Unsurprisingly the rest of the date didn’t go well. She left ten minutes later, saying that something important had come up.

Looking back, it is scary how many times I messed dates up, but I remained undeterred. My success at university was limited. I had a few dates but never any with women I wanted, but at no point did I think, “I’m not cut out for dating.” I saw just enough potential to keep persisting with ruthless ambition. What other option was there?

In 2001, whilst in my second year of university, I began avidly reading every self-help and spiritual book that I could get my hands on. I was first introduced to the book How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie by my university friend Andy. This popular mainstream book taught me some essential conversation techniques that actually worked and this was the first time I realized that having good social skills was something you could learn. Andy was very similar to me in that he also had a huge needy desire for women to love him.

I found it impossible to focus on my studies. I guess if the love and sex part of your life is not handled, then study just isn’t as important. I basically did the minimum to get through university, which is shocking because I’m now, he says modestly, the hardest-working person I know. My two main passions were sports and women. However, I just didn’t know what women looked for in a man. I actually thought it was primarily to do with appearance, which confused me a lot because I was a fairly good-looking guy.

I mention that I was good-looking as I believe this was the main reason why I got a minimal level of success with women when I was younger. I looked like a cross between Mulder from The X-Files and Tom DeLonge, the guitarist and vocalist of Blink-182. Sadly, my looks (unlike a fine wine) have deteriorated with age and I now purely rely on game.

STUBBORN AS A MULE

Three years after leaving university I had reached the top of the software engineering career ladder and I was getting paid large sums of money. I worked hard and stayed late after work to revise for certifications that I paid for out of my own money. Both my mum and dad were always very hardworking and this was instilled in me from a young age.

I once went for a job interview for the position of a senior oracle database technician. I have no idea what motivated me to go because I had only done one module on databases at university. I turned up for the interview and there were nine other candidates vying for the one position. At that point I could’ve decided, “I’m probably not going to get this job,” and gone home, but I stayed.

We had a two-hour theory exam on oracle databases. After that we went to a hall where some sandwiches were provided and we waited for the next stage. I could’ve gone after the sandwiches, as I knew that I’d barely answered any of the questions in the exam.

I didn’t go home.

I then went to a one-hour psychometric test, which didn’t go any better than the theory exam. Despite this, I decided to stick around for the face-to-face interview. Blundering and guessing my way through all the questions, I made it through the interview.

Then I waited for the results of the tests. Here is the moment where I tell you that persistence wins the day! Live the dream! Don’t ever give up on life!

I didn’t get the job.

What this experience, and others in my life, made me realize, though, is that I’m as stubborn as a mule. Despite overwhelming odds, I’ll still foolishly battle on—like Rocky without the theme music. I often wonder what it would be like to have theme music accompanying my life. At least then I’d know when things are about to go right or wrong. Is that a badger in my garden or a serial killer? Maybe I should go out and check. Wait, creepy-horror-movie music doesn’t sound very upbeat, I’m outta here!

I did land an IT job about a week later and karma was restored. It wasn’t a sexy job but I was happy for a while. However, I soon lost motivation. I felt like I had to push myself through the day. Something was out of alignment.

LEARNING THE ROUTINE

In 2005 I read The Game by Neil Strauss, a Rolling Stone journalist who discovered the pickup artist community and consequently had a lot of personal success. Mystery was one of the lead characters in the book and he became a new role model for me. He seemed like a cool guy and had hot women in his life. The Mystery Method, a pick-up method which he invented, is a logical and scientific approach to meeting women. I managed to get some success with this method, a few dates, and sex. I would repeat memorized lines and routines to women after learning them the night before. It was useful to be given something to say, but most of the time I must have come across as a bit weird.

I have hung out and learned from the best routine-based guys in the world. I met a guy called Max, who at the time taught on Mystery Method boot camps. He was the best routine instructor I had met and was regarded by most as the best in the UK. I had grown a small reputation as being good with women and so we became friends. He took me under his wing and taught me everything. Together we spent many nights in London approaching as many beautiful women as we could.

Max is short, has long hair that he spikes up, and dresses in black clothing. He was fantastic at “opening” (see page 129) and there was no woman that he wouldn’t approach. He’d regularly approach women who were out with men already. Many times I’ve seen women shrug off their boyfriends so they could stay and listen to Max for longer.

One evening we saw a pair of ultra-hot women walking through Piccadilly Circus, London. If you were to rate women on a scale of one to ten, they would both easily have been tens. They walked into a restaurant and so Max and I followed them in. We took a table close to them and we ordered a couple of sodas. Max waited for the waiter to finish taking their order and then took the lead by opening with a scripted routine. Within a few minutes we had both left with their phone numbers, and this in front of a packed restaurant.

On another occasion, Max and I were in a coffee shop, but the women he’d approached didn’t respond well. Security came over and said, “If you aren’t buying anything, then you need to leave.” Max just stood there, engaged him in conversation, but refused to move. The social pressure was huge but he knew they couldn’t physically touch him. Doing things like this is great for building confidence.

However, I did begin to notice a few flaws to learning a routine-based system. I got results but, as soon as I ran out of the material that I had learned, I’d lose my confidence and the woman would leave. It was frustrating because I couldn’t get past date three, let alone form a relationship, which was primarily what I wanted. I also noticed my general confidence had dropped, which I was surprised by. I had studied the routine method and had approached close to a thousand women by this point and yet I was less confident than ever. I didn’t know who I was anymore.

THE NATURAL APPROACH

I decided that this routine-based system of pick-up wasn’t the right path for me. It was around this time that I started working on the real me and developing my core confidence. I traveled the world and had amazing times meeting new people and doing new things. I started testing a more natural approach for eighteen months and made significant improvements, but I still wasn’t confident. I noticed that even this approach was still reliant on the ego. Rather than learning full scripts, students took on the identities of the instructors. I still hadn’t found myself and true consistency at the game was still eluding me.

FINDING MY OWN WAY

Despite making big improvements, internally I hadn’t healed. I was still carrying bad childhood experiences and beliefs, and they were preventing me from reaching the next level. I started looking inside myself after reading Buddhist meditation books and from then on I experienced big positive internal shifts. I started reading spiritual material and mainstream self-help books and testing them out. I wasted a lot of time reading poor material and testing things that didn’t work, so I had no alternative other than to try to figure things out for myself.

I have lived with monks in Thailand, where they schooled me on their deep-confidence concepts. They taught me the power in letting go, the maybe approach, and going with the flow (see pages 60–64). These are concepts that I teach on boot camp to this day. I have meditated every day for four years and have personally taught over a thousand students the pick-up arts.

I pioneered the Authentic Natural approach to pick-up, which incorporates Buddhist philosophies on a non-religious level. PUA Method is the first company in the world to teach authentic pick-up and meditation at boot camps. PUA Method is the first company to ever teach this live and infield. In fact, I’m one of only a handful of PUA Pick-up Artist CEOs in the world to actually demonstrate, wing, and teach infield. Infield means I’m actually there with the student talking to women, right by their side to make sure it goes okay. PUA Method takes a holistic approach, which means students gain confidence as well as becoming master pickup artists.

As previously mentioned, PUA Method teaches the most effective parts of natural and routine-based game, but makes sure your confidence grows too. The Surrender (see pages 46–117) covers confidence issues and healing old problems while The Action (see pages 118–188) covers pick-up techniques and gives advice on what to say. I also teach a technical sequence for “opening” (see page 129) that allows anyone to reach over a 90 percent successful opening rate (see pages 134–137). It doesn’t matter who you are or what you look like. If you learn the opening technique sequence you will be able to consistently get into conversations with women that you desire.

Over the last five years I’ve been teaching and demonstrating the authentic, natural approach to meeting women full time with PUA Method. I started out by teaching students for free and then I was forced to charge as demand grew. Teaching is my passion because of the change it’s brought to my own life. If I’m not teaching, then I’m reading or practicing and I’m constantly looking for new theories and beliefs that can help other people with their transformations.

I’m at a stage in my life where I have had deep relationships with some truly beautiful women. I have had threesomes, a foursome, and dated strippers and celebrities. On top of that I now have a strong level of confidence and regularly do public speaking and talk with powerful people. I have shaved off my hair, got fatter, and grown a beard all at the same time, but despite this I have learned how to consistently pick up beautiful women.

For the last seven years I have strived for as close to perfection as possible and on most days I would probably put the majority of rock stars’ love lives to shame. Most weekends I personally teach on boot camp and I practice approaching every day. What is most important for me is to get otherwise successful men true abundance with women. Scarcity creates anger, which can lead to a downward sequence of fear, grief, and shame. Society might try to convince you that you aren’t good enough to date the women you desire. However, I can show that this is not the case; you are good enough for these women, you just need to give your mind evidence that this is true. A world where there is no fear and we all get to live in abundance would be a truly loving, peaceful place.

Now, despite all my success, I don’t need any of it. I’d be just as happy sitting in a forest appreciating nature. I always used to think that getting success and love from women would make me happy and fix all my problems. However, it was the journey and not the destination that led me to look inside and become happy in myself.

The best way I can describe it is that being with beautiful women has become normal, nothing more unusual than making dinner. You don’t get excited when you make dinner, right? You are just hungry and so you eat, but you can really appreciate and enjoy fantastic food. I now really enjoy having deep connections with women, loving and allowing them to love me without needing it.