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- Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
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- Sprache: Englisch
The only trauma-informed curriculum designed to turn men into great dads
Amazing Dads Fatherhood Curriculum teaches fathers with kids of all ages to become exceptional parents. These detailed lessons meet dads where they are, starting from the common tendencies of male socialization to help explain key concepts of healthy fathering. Through a trauma-informed approach, this curriculumcreates safety in the group setting while delving into critical topics that fathers simply do not tend to talk about with people in their lives.
Unlike other fatherhood curricula, Amazing Dads addresses a breadth of topics, empowering men to discuss issues like family of origin, sexuality, how punishment can turn into abuse, self-care, and how toxic messages in the culture can hinder parent-child relationships. Each session incorporates grounding and breathing exercises, in addition to activities, exercises, and experiential opportunities that allow participants to connect with the material on a meaningful level. By the end of this course, fathers will have gained the increased self-awareness needed to enhance their relationships with their children and other family members.
- Lead fathers through a curriculum of targeted lessons focused on how male socialization affects their parenting
- Guide participants through exercises for developing relational, communication, and conflict resolution skills
- Connect with dads on a meaningful level by creating a safe space for discussions of trauma and other difficult subjects
- Explain important parenting concepts using examples, hands-on activities, and more
This curriculum is excellent for use in parenting groups, behavioral health treatment programs, addiction treatment programs, and other community-based programs serving fathers. Dads of all backgrounds, with kids of all ages, will benefit from the wisdom in Amazing Dads Fatherhood Curriculum.
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Table of Contents
Cover
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Page
About The Amazing Dads! Program
About This Workbook
MEETING 1: Engaging the Father Within
Group Agreements
Box Breathing
Palms Up, Palms Down
Expectations – What Do You Want to Get Out of This Group?
What Is Fatherhood to You?
Commitment to Conscious Fatherhood
Into Action: Values Clarification – What Is Important to You?
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 1 Summary
MEETING 2: The Man Rules
Examples of Feelings
The Man Rules:
The Components of Healthy Fathering:
Subgroup Discussion: The Man Rules vs. Healthy Fathering
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 2 Summary
MEETING 3: Toxic Water
The Shoes of Another
Into Action: Reflections on Toxic Water
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 3 Summary
MEETING 4: Dads and Trauma: Breaking the Cycle
Activity: The Colors of Life
Examples of Events That Could Result in Trauma (Black 2018)
Five Senses Mindfulness
Into Action: Kintsugi
Practical & Tactical – Trauma Signs Self‐Reflection
Meeting 4 Summary
MEETING 5: Making the Connections – Mental Health, Addiction, and Trauma
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
Subgroup Discussion: Let’s Get Real
Exercise: Gratitude Breathing
Into Action: Resilience‐Building Plan
Practical & Tactical: Complete the PACEs Questionnaire
Meeting 5 Summary
MEETING 6: Feelings… Nothing More than Feelings
Exercise: Advanced Box Breathing
Eagle’s Wings Exercise
Prompts for Digging Deeper Activity
Discussion Points for Sharing Feelings Activity
Optional Scenarios for Digging Deeper Activity
Activity: A Picture of Anger
Place of Peace Relaxation Exercise
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 6 Summary
MEETING 7: Exploring Family Dynamics – Past and Present
Common Woman Rules
Descriptions of Common Family Roles
Prompts to Help Create Your Family of Origin Project
Place of Peace Relaxation Exercise – Family Version
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 7 Summary
MEETING 8: Father of Mine
Sharing Your Family of Origin Project
Relationships with Our Fathers – Discussion Questions
Loving Kindness Meditation
Into Action: Letter to Your Father
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 8 Summary
MEETING 9: Mothers
Mother Rules and Expectations
Relationships with Our Mothers – Discussion Questions
Into Action: Letter to Your Mother
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 9 Summary
MEETING 10: Healthy Relationships Are for Us Too!
Repairing in Relationships
Descriptions of Key Skills
Into Action
Practical & Tactical #1
Practical & Tactical #2
Meeting 10 Summary
MEETING 11: Communication Is Key
Full Body Breathing
Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Communication Styles
Benefits and Costs of Communication Styles
Pause, Assess, Respond (PAR)
Active Listening
Back‐to‐Back Drawing Activity
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 11 Summary
MEETING 12: Let's Talk About Sex
Sex, Sexuality, and Intimacy
Types of Intimacy
Subgroup Discussion Questions: Intimacy Exploration
What I Wish I Had Known:
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 12 Summary
MEETING 13: Let's REALLY Talk About Sex
Let's Talk About Sex: Prompts for Subgroup Discussions
Defining Consent
Information on Consent
Preparing for “The Sex Talk”
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Suggestions for Healthy Conversations with Your Children
Meeting 13 Summary
MEETING 14: Men's Health
Eight Dimensions of Wellness
My Physical Health
Into Action: Complete Your Wellness Plans
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 14 Summary
MEETING 15: Healthy Discipline
Defining Discipline:
Parenting Styles
Subgroup Discussion Questions: Healthy Discipline
Small Group Discussion Questions: Abuse and Discipline
Types of Abuse
Into Action
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 15 Summary
MEETING 16: The Art of Play
Benefits of Play for Children
Benefits of Play for Parents
How Do You Play? Discussion Questions
Teachable Moments Discussion Questions
Tips for Playtime with Your Children
Into Action: Coat of Arms Prep
Practical & Tactical
Meeting 16 Summary
MEETING 17: A Balancing Act
Subgroup Discussions: Finding Balance
Into Action: Complete My Amazing Dad Action Plan
Practical & Tactical #1: Identifying Supports
Practical & Tactical #2: Activities for Balance
Meeting 17 Summary
MEETING 18: Vision of Fatherhood
Create a Coat of Arms
Meeting 18 Summary
Reflecting On Your Experience
CONGRATULATORY Congratulations on finishing the Amazing Dads program!
PARTICIPANT SURVEY: Request for your feedback
Appendix A: Grounding and Relaxation Exercises
Box Breathing
Palms Up, Palms Down
In with the Good Breathing
Five Senses Mindfulness
Place of Peace Relaxation Exercise
Exercise: Gratitude Breathing
Eagle's Wings Exercise
Loving Kindness Meditation
Full Body Breathing
Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Additional References
References
End User License Agreement
Guide
Cover Page
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Page
About The Amazing Dads! Program
About This Workbook
Begin Reading
Appendix A Grounding and Relaxation Exercises
Additional References
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WORKBOOK Amazing Dads! Fatherhood Curriculum
Dan Griffin
Harrison Crawford
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About The Amazing Dads! Program
Congratulations on starting the Amazing Dads! program. Our guess is that you are already amazing! Our hope is that you will find tools in this program that will allow you to be even more amazing and maybe even confirm for yourself just how amazing you are.
Amazing Dads! is a program unlike any other. It is the first truly trauma‐informed parenting curriculum tailored specifically for fathers. It is important to recognize that as a father, you have different needs, face different challenges, and want different guidance with parenting than mothers do. This program addresses that reality in a way that you will hopefully find both comforting in the way it speaks to you as a man and a father and challenging in that you will be asked to do a great deal of self‐reflection. The goal of Amazing Dads! is to help you create a vision of the father you want to be and to provide you with the awareness, tools, and confidence to achieve that vision.
This program is designed to be trauma informed. That means that the language, activities, and tools throughout the program are meant to be challenging but in a way that is safe. Everything in the program was designed with an assumption that all participants have experienced some level or form of trauma in their lives, and creating an environment of safety for all participating dads was a top priority when creating the program. Trust and safety are key to creating lasting changes and becoming the father you want to be. Whether you have experienced trauma in your life or not, the trauma‐informed approach is designed to create a safe environment for you to do the work that will help you become the father you want to be.
You are reading this because you have decided to make (or are considering making) fundamental changes in how you show up as a father. In most cases, you will be using this workbook as part of a program in which you meet regularly with a group of other fathers. As part of this process, you will attend 18 meetings with these other fathers and all of you will have opportunities to develop new skills and new ways of thinking about yourself, your children, your families, and about fatherhood. One of the most powerful aspects of this program is the group setting where you will get to see just how common many of the issues are that fathers face but also to explore important differences that make each father unique and able to offer diverse perspectives. Again, the organization of the program is designed to make this group setting safe and trusting in a way that many fathers have not had the fortune of experiencing.
Topics covered in this program include:
The impact of male socialization on boys, men, and fathers (a core theme that guides the whole curriculum).
Trauma, how it shows up in men and fathers, and the importance of addressing any trauma history you might have.
Skill‐building and practical tools you can use with, and teach to, your children.
Relationship skill development.
Developing emotional understanding, particularly as relates to anger and shame.
Enhanced communication skills for healthy conflict resolution.
The influence of family of origin experiences.
Exploring the relationships with fathers/father figures and mothers/mother figures.
A candid exploration of sex, sexuality, and intimacy and how to begin having a healthy dialogue about these topics with your children.
Differentiating discipline from punishment, how punishment can turn into abuse, and identifying what healthy discipline looks like.
The effects of male socialization on the fathers' ability to create and maintain healthy relationships, offering them specific tools to help repair during times of disconnection.
Finding balance and the importance of self‐care as part of being a healthy father.
Understanding and meeting the changing roles and expectations of men and fathers in the twenty‐first century.
The hope is that your exploration of all these topics and your experiences will help you develop an idea of the father you want to be, whether that be confirming that you are already showing up in ways that align with the father you want to be, or identifying some changes you want to make to help align yourself with that vision of the father you want to be.
About This Workbook
This workbook is meant for you to be able to record your experiences throughout this program. Using this workbook will help you reflect on and remember what you learn, think, and feel during the group meetings and as you continue to practice the tools you learn on your own between meetings. The workbook contains:
Summaries of information you will receive in the group meetings.
Many of the activities and exercises that you will do during the group meetings.
Activities for you to work on between the group meetings.
Space for you to reflect on what you learned in each session.
A section where all of the grounding and relaxation exercises are listed so you have easy access to them whenever you might want to use one or refresh your memory of them.
The activities that are to be completed between the group meetings are designed to help you to reflect on what you have learned and to put some new skills and behaviors into practice. The “Into Action” exercises are meant to help you put what was discussed in the meeting directly into action in your own life. There are also additional Practical & Tactical exercises designed as deeper dives into the material and information discussed in the meetings. These are meant to be optional, additional ways you can explore the discussions and reflect on your own experiences.
Men tend to learn best by doing, and these activities also help you to see the benefits of what you are practicing. The activities are not things you have to do in order to pass a class. Some of them involve writing or drawing exercises, but your skills in these areas are not being tested. You do not need to worry about your handwriting or spelling. What matters is what you put into the activities and, consequently, what you get out of them. There are no right or wrong answers, no “shoulds” or “shouldn’ts,” and your work will not be checked or graded. This workbook is a tool to help you with your growth toward the vision of the father you want to be, and something you can keep and look back on in the future to remind you of your growth and to use as a resource for things like grounding and relaxation exercises you will learn.
There will be opportunities during some of the group meetings for you to share what you have written in your workbook. You can share what you want and keep the rest private. The group meeting is a safe place, and there will be ground rules regarding confidentiality. If writing is difficult for you that is okay, you can draw pictures or simply make notes however works best for you.
You can use this workbook to highlight what you want to remember from each meeting and to make notes about what you are thinking and feeling as you go through this program.
You may be concerned about keeping your workbook private. If you live with others and are not sure they will respect your privacy, you should hide your workbook or lock it up. Or you can ask the facilitator or another trusted person to help you find a way to keep your workbook safe between group meetings. The facilitator is prepared for such requests. If the facilitator will be holding your workbook between meetings, he or she will respect your privacy and arrange for you to complete the extra activities after each meeting or at some other time.
MEETING 1Engaging the Father Within
Welcome! Congratulations on making the decision to work toward becoming the best father you can be. This is your first step toward becoming the Amazing Dad you have inside. Your first meeting in the Amazing Dads! program is an introduction to what you can expect throughout your participation in the meetings. There is discussion of the different goals of the program as a whole, and then you will have opportunities to explore your own goals for your time in the program as well as some important questions about what fatherhood means to you. This session is meant to “set the stage” for the rest of the program.
The goals of Meeting 1 are:
To discuss the structure of the program.
To go over the group agreements and expectations.
To explore what fatherhood means to you.
To commit to putting in the work to be the father you want to be.
Group Agreements
At the beginning of Meeting 1, your facilitator will explain some group agreements that will be maintained during each of the group meetings. Part of creating an environment of safety and trust in one another comes from each father committing to follow these agreements. The group agreements listed here are the common ones that are recommended, but the ones in your particular group may differ if there are specific requirements that the facilitator needs to follow.
Safety
We agree to create a safe space for everyone. This means physical safety, as well as a feeling of safety where each of us can share his experiences, opinions, and thoughts without fear of being shamed. We agree there will be no physical or verbal abuse. We agree to discuss any concerns for safety with the group facilitator(s).
Attendance & Participation
We agree to attend all meetings. If a conflict keeps us from being able to attend, we agree to contact the facilitator(s) ahead of time. We also commit to choosing to be on time for each meeting. We agree to participate and stretch outside our comfort zone as best we can, even if it is challenging. Also, each of us has a right to decide something is too uncomfortable to share and we agree to respect each dad’s right to decide that for himself. We agree to keep focused on the topics of each meeting. We agree to help each other stay focused, including helping the facilitator(s) stay on topic.
Confidentiality
We agree to keep everything that is said in this group, in this group. We will not discuss the experiences or information shared by other dads outside this group. We are responsible for keeping the confidentiality in the group. We understand any limits to confidentiality on the part of the facilitator(s) will be explained to us as appropriate.
Respect
We agree to respect each other – our time, our experiences, and our challenges. We do not have to agree all the time, but when we disagree, we will do so while respecting the other’s experience. We agree to share the time in this group, showing others respect by allowing each dad opportunities to share and participate. We agree to show respect by being honest when we choose to share as well as when we give feedback to others.
Other (feel free to write any others that your facilitator or group identifies here):
There are times when you may feel uncomfortable, anxious, or frustrated in the group. This happens to everyone at times, especially in unfamiliar settings and with new experiences. Many of us keep these feelings to ourselves as we have not learned how to deal with excitement, anxiety, and feeling uncomfortable in ways that are healthy. Throughout your time in this program, you will learn many different techniques that you can use to help you relax, calm yourself, and feel more grounded. The first two techniques (the ones you learned in Meeting 1) are listed here, and there is also an Appendix at the back of this workbook where all the techniques are housed for your reference later.
Box Breathing
This exercise can help you calm your body and your mind quickly and efficiently:
Put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach.
As you take a few breaths, notice which hand is moving more. Try moving your breath deeper into your lower abdomen, so that your hand on your stomach moves more as you breathe.
Close your mouth and press your tongue lightly to the roof of your mouth. Let your jaw relax.
Take in a full breath slowly through your nose, counting to four.
Hold your breath, counting to four.
Exhale all the air through your mouth, counting to four.
Rest for a count of four.
As thoughts come up, acknowledge them, and then return your focus to your breathing and counting.
