Introvert E-Book

Cammy Hollows

• Herausgeber: Anonymous
• Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2020

Beschreibung

This guide answers some major questions that introverts have had in the past. And obviously, it will address those concerns in a way that provides new insights and useful information.



Topics include the intimidation factor, even for introverts, as well as finding introverts to talk to, socializing with them, why you can be proud of being an introvert, things extroverts and introverts can learn from each other, and basic interaction skills we all need.



These fascinating topics will help you see the bigger picture.

Leseprobe

Introvert

Secrets and Inner Wisdom of Introverts in a Noisy World

By Cammy Hollows

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: The Intimidation Element

Chapter 2: Where to Chat with Introverts

Chapter 3: Why Interacting Socially Sucks the Life out of Introverts

Chapter 4: The Top Seven Reasons You Should Be Proud to Be an Introvert

Chapter 5: Introverts Are Not Dysfunctional Extroverts

Chapter 6: The Top 5 Things Every Introvert Need to Learn About Extroverts

Chapter 7: How to Interact with an Introvert

Chapter 1: The Intimidation Element

When he ran into a hurt hiker on a distant mountain path, Bill Clinton just wanted to help that person. He would get around a corner only to discover two young women, one of whom had hurt her leg so much that she could not walk at all. Clinton, a poet who teaches writing at the State University of New York's Plattsburgh school, has been trained in wasteland rescue. He is also 6-foot-5 and 250 pounds, with a thriving voice and abundant facial hair that, on those winter hikes, it tends to frost over into what he refers to as an ice beard. It can make him a surprising figure in the woods.

" Hi, my name is Bill and I know emergency treatment. Can I help?" he asked the girls. Wishing to offer nonthreatening usefulness, he smiled, kept his hands in his pockets, and stayed at some distance. But he could see the fear in their faces. The standing girl instantly yelped, "No!" The hurt girl took longer to react, like thinking about the right words to tell him to leave. "I'm waiting on a helicopter," she mentioned.

Clinton knew that there was no helicopter en route. Nonetheless he also knew that saying so, and staying, would only make the two of them more awkward. So he trekked on and eventually came across a ranger, who went up to help. The girls left the mountain safely, but it annoyed Clinton to know that they counted him among the threats they faced that day.

" I was doing everything I could think of to not be daunting," he says. "I dislike that that's how I am perceived. And it happens a lot."

Intimidation plays a crucial role in our social interactions every day. There are people who present as physically intimidating; others are enforcing because of their personality, intelligence, wealth, or social status. Still others could remind us of a person who scared us in the past. Whatever the source, we seldom talk about it freely, so the people who frighten us often have not the slightest idea how we see them. That can carry real risks, as the inner feeling of being intimidated can trigger a fight-or-flight reaction just as any other perceived risk does.

People who are easily intimidated, particularly people for whom self-confidence is a challenge, could find their behavior changing for reasons they don't always understand. And even the most seemingly secure individuals get intimidated in some cases, though not always by whom you would expect.

Big Misinterpreting

The fact that Jason Peña is built like a linebacker was a beneficial asset on his high school football team. It also helped him become a bouncer at the Houston bar, which is where he now works as a bartender and supervisor. But he rarely tosses his weight around; good friends define him as a softy and colleagues call him Peanut. As a bouncer, he's always tried to avoid physical confrontation. But while his size alone often convinces potential troublemakers to get in line, it can periodically provoke a violent response. "Some people see a huge guy and want to prove themselves," Peña says, "particularly if they've been consuming."

Clinton, who also worked as a bouncer for several years, says his size was more often a liability than a benefit on the job. He took at the very least 20 punches throughout his bouncing profession, he says. One patron broke a pool cue over his head.

The intimidating impact of physical size is just one of the easiest to explain from an evolutionary perspective. Most people larger than we're pose an apparent danger: They could hurt us. "It's fundamental mammalian stuff," says therapist Grant Brenner. "These nonverbal cues signify things that we pick up outside of consciousness and impact the way we view the other individual and analyze their intents."

We could, thus, be ready to fight an intimidating individual before we comprehend why. And those of us who've unintentionally intimidated someone could be surprised when that individual tosses a punch-- or runs away.

Clinton would rather have it that they do neither, specifically when it's someone with whom he desires form a relationship. "I never want to daunt people when I'm teaching, or at a professors meeting, or talking with the parents or caregivers of my kids' classmates," he says. "I would say most poets and authors aren't the most social people, but I'm social, I'm friendly, and I like meeting people. Nonetheless I can see it discover individuals' faces. They will tell me later, 'When I initially met you, I was intimidated and worried.' I resemble, 'Why? What was I doing? How can I refrain from doing it again?'".

For most tall people, one answer could be to make themselves seem shorter. But it is not as simple as bending down or hunching over, which can appear condescending. Crouching also forces people into a closed posture that comes across as unfriendly, Brenner explains: It looks a lot like looming.