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Gunther Scheuring
THE WAY TO LOVE
Gunther Scheuring
THE WAY TO LOVE
© 2022 Gunther Scheuring
1st edition 2022
Author: Gunther Scheuring
Cover photo: © Gunther Scheuring
Graphic design: Gunther Scheuring
Editor: Ina Kleinod
Translator: Louise Bromby
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Gunther Scheuring
THE WAY TO LOVE
THE JOURNEY IS THE DESTINATION
Contents
Free of the thought
Mediumistic writing
Luckily …
Do I really exist?
Being alone
Expectations
Grandad, I got bad marks at school.
Memorial Sunday
Controlling your thoughts
Fear
Getting up and going to bad?
The moment
Game of questions
Between thoughts
We are all made of change
The flow of life
Loneliness?
We learn by example
Silence and serenity
Acceptance and freedom
Listen to yourself
Constant fatigue
Being married and staying true to yourself
My first grey hairs
Stand still or open a door
Lifespan
Didgeridoo
Fearlessly vegetarian
The potential of silence
Meditation – a great panacea
Boredom or time for maintenance?
Relationships
Deeper feeling
Love is born of harmony
God is the way
Conclusion and gratitude
Nothing is everything
Blessed are the ignorant
Living in love
Perception and feeling
I stood before nothingness
Epilogue
Appendix
FREE OF THOUGHT
I sit by the lake
in the warm sunshine
enjoying my own company.
The early morning has the stillness
of a breath of wind
gently stirring the tall reeds.
The water, with waves
that are almost imperceptible
transports the warmth of this summer to me.
Fulfilled to the very depths,
I become blissfully submerged
without a thought.
DO I CHOOSE LIVE OR FEAR?
Mediumistic writing
There are more things under the sun than the human being can ever know. There are things that are vital to him, things that help him to understand his life. These unbelievable things, which are impossible to grasp, happen between this world and another, whether he believes in them or not. They are there, but he is unable to perceive them. Just as he does not really perceive his own self, even though he is aware on some level that he exists. He is in a dream world. It is possible to awaken from it – his mental and spiritual potential is inexhaustible. Will he ever experience this?
I learned the skill of mediumistic writing completely by chance, overnight so to speak. After I had been meditating every morning and evening for a long period of time, the spiritual world knocked on my door at three o’clock one morning, woke me up and gave me intermittent thoughts that I was instructed to record. Although I was half asleep and taken completely by surprise, I reached for my laptop and began writing everything down. Four hours later, I was so exhausted that I fell asleep again, happy and grateful.
This seemed to please the spiritual world, and it got into the habit of waking me up every night to write. I was grateful, as I found this task highly fulfilling from the very beginning.
LISTEN!
Luckily …
I am delighted that possibly because of my book “The Chance for Love” I have awakened your interest in reading this book. “The Way to Love” sets out to bring your true feelings to the foreground, inviting you to appreciate your real connection with reality on a deeper level. This intense feeling should take you a step further not just anywhere, but directly towards yourself. It helps you to gain a deeper understanding of your experiences up to the present moment. Every life path is paved with uneven stones. The irregularity they create is a very important part of your life, it helps you to gain knowledge and life experience. These insights are the basic building blocks of life, leading you on your way to the esteemed wisdom of old age. Many insights help to smooth the way. Recognition is of the utmost importance, as it prevents you from coming to a standstill. In this way, you will lead a life with more conscious realisations and more “aha” effects. Your days will become brighter from the inside, even if it is raining outside. It can feel like a pleasurable change in your imagination, based on knowledge. It is like crossing a bridge that has not yet been built, although it already exists in your imagination. All the building material is already there. It can become the most stable bridge it is possible to build in a lifetime. It all depends on the master builder and what he plans to do how long is the bridge going to be, how far does he intend to go along it? And the most important thing is the point in time at which he starts off on the path he has chosen. At what point in time are we ready to create a more stable bridge from the building components at our disposal countless numbers of useable and non-usable materials to build a bridge of life so to speak, that will be the lifelong foundation of the true love we long for? When we admit that we wish to experience more love, this bridge will lead us directly to a newly built home with large, light windows and a garden full of sunflowers. When you begin to read this book, you will realise after the first few words that you are the most important person in your life. It is all about living for yourself, and for you alone. Not only for some of the time, and not half-heartedly.
I strongly believe that people would feel much better if they invested more energy in themselves, taking care of their health, watching what they do and say, and acting in a conscious way. Many words have become superfluous, acceptance is the key to inner peace. Everything in life would then revolve around simplicity. This is one of the most important steps you will ever take when it comes to experiencing your own love. In the modern world, most people are still far away from achieving this, because the challenge of “letting go” gets in the way. This kind of freedom is a special existence, full of mindfulness. In order to achieve peace and calm, you must learn to do nothing. You must take longer pauses for thought and experience them consciously, in many short moments. That is an incredibly difficult thing to learn. The human being always feels that he has to have something to do, something to think about if not, he feels useless. Recognising this feeling of uselessness and learning to make yourself useful in a positive, healing way is one of life’s paradoxes. Doing nothing and clearing superfluous thoughts from your head is a high art. You become free in your mind so that you can use your personal potential to the full, which is the only way to achieve the lightness we all long for. This internal knowledge can only be gained by believing in yourself and accepting the love that comes with it. In cosmic terms, too, we are not without energetic support during our transition to the Age of Aquarius. For decades before the turn of the millennium and beyond 2012 there has been a change in cosmic energies that has increasingly given people the opportunity to change their way of thinking. Consciousness is accelerating and, under this influence, the human race is undergoing a process of change that reveals itself to everyone in a different way. New perspectives emerge, and life automatically takes a different direction. Of course, our will plays an important role here, along with how open we are to this process of transformation. The human being changes constantly, experiencing new things every day. However, the breakdown of old, entrenched ways of thinking is the only thing that leads to insight, and ultimately to new behaviour. Every change in consciousness gives rise to people who think differently. This of course does not mean that they are reborn. It is far more simple than that: as his feelings become more to achieve the lightness and more important, the human being is no longer dependent on thinking. His true nature suddenly appears, his true being.
His thoughts are in harmony with his feelings. Thinking is then only an accompanying factor in life. He suddenly finds himself at the centre of a new life, but he does not even realise it. It will feel as if it were the most normal thing in the world. But until that actually happens, there is still an awful lot to be done.
For example, let us take the morning of each day. What are the first insights we experience on an empty stomach, without knowing how important they are for our well-being? This first moment is crucial. The power of the day lies in how you begin it. Do you ignore yourself while you put your toothbrush in your mouth and push it around indifferently, while thinking that the mirror really ought to be cleaned so that you can see your reflection in it? That would be one way of beginning the day, and possibly also of spending the rest of it. It would be more pleasing, however, to look openly and honestly into your own face in the mirror and feel fulfilled. You could simply be happy and think how good you look, no matter how badly or well you have slept. I am looking good! This gives a solid foundation to every new day. We should also mean what we say to ourselves, we should be open, honest ourselves.
In this way, the day, with all of its events and impressions, will always have something beautiful and good to offer us. If this feeling develops in our body first thing in the morning, the whole day will be filled with a warm smile.
I remember a joke about the basic situation we all share, and I cannot think of a better way to describe it at the moment: In outer space, two planets meet after not seeing one another for a long time. One of the planets, green, blossoming and beaming with joy, says to his friend “Oh, I hardly recognised you, what is wrong?” “Well”, moans the other planet, emaciated and run down. “I’m in a bad way. I have been trying to fight it for years, I really don’t know what to do about it”. “What? Is it really so bad?” asks the happy planet. “What happened to you?”. I haven’t been feeling comfortable in my own skin for quite a while. I must have caught something destructive.” “Oh,” says the well-meaning planet. “Have you found out what it could be?” “I think I've been careless with myself over the years and caught a virus,” the planet sobs, depressed. “How could you be so careless, so inconsiderate towards everything you have”, admonished the shimmering green planet.
“I keep extremely good care of myself, taking the laws of nature into consideration, they have the utmost priority for me. Look how everything on me is blossoming, I am green all over, I am so happy about it.” In a sad voice, the other planet, bare and deforested, says what he thinks must have happened: “I believe it must have been Homo sapiens that did this to me.” “Oh dear”, said his planet friend. “I had them once”. Luckily, we can say that nature still has the power to regenerate itself. I wish that humankind would use its immense power of thought to heal itself, rather than thoughtlessly damaging nature. The question here is whether we use this power for life itself. Through certain energetic changes on Earth, the human being is faced with the challenge of learning how to rethink, how to feel. These changes are quite simple, in fact they are shown to us every day. All we have to do is to perceive them correctly and reclassify what we see according to a different perspective. This means that we must set aside the fear within us, the fear we live with day by day. We should let go of all the illusions and structures of fear. We must transform the fear into love, mindful in the words we choose.
The things we say and think are what we experience in the end, they determine what we are. Every untruth we spread comes back to us twofold and burdens our soul. Not only our own life is love, but every single day. Every day is right just the way it is. All we need is the will to accept it. If we believe in things and words that are afflicted with illusions, just because we are afraid and feel the need to cling on to familiar patterns, we are creating human errors that can have a huge significance for example if we mistake sex for love, or believe that we only deserve love if we are high achievers, or that true love does not exist anyway. Love IS true life, and everyone carries it within himself. Man is born with the capacity to live in love. He does not have to spend his life in a constant struggle. He always has the chance to put love into practice, but he has to find it out for himself.
If you recognise your own life and live it according to your feelings, you will have a good chance of finding loving resonance.
LIFE IS LOVE.
Do I really exist?
Of course, I know who I am! I had “mastered” my life for years in this firm belief, with the support of my ego. At least, I thought I had mastered it, and I expect most people do the same our thoughts are our lives. They determine and regulate our everyday lives perfectly. We know our name; how tall we are and how much we weigh. My ego had convinced me that that was enough, yes, it had really hammered it into my brain. I was supposed to automatically go along with it, it seemed that I had no other choice. That’s just the way I am! that was all I knew about myself in those days. Unconsciously, something grew inside me over years, something akin to discontent. I had created a state within myself that had become almost unbearable. I continually asked myself the same questions, in the hope that I would receive an answer from somewhere or other.
Where does this displeasure inside me come from?
What is the cause of all my doubt?
How can I change the situation?
In time it became clear to me that the idea that I knew who I was, perpetuated by my ego, was not really true. I was just pretending to myself. I did not really know who I was! When I woke up in the mornings, the first thing I did was to clean my teeth. The last thing I did in the evening before going to bed was to clean my teeth. Between cleaning my teeth in the morning and the evening was the day, sometimes so and sometimes so, the weather sometimes so and sometimes so. Often nothing much happened between cleaning my teeth in the morning and evening, although I felt that every day was jam packed with activity! Why couldn’t I see what was really happening between the occasions when I cleaned my teeth? Why had I got up in the first place? To make sure my teeth were clean and go back to bed again?
Why?
Had I forgotten to see myself, perhaps I had overlooked myself altogether? I had been passing myself by without noticing myself. I could at least have said “Hello” and “How are you doing, mate?” But nothing happened, nothing at all quite shocking to look back and see that this is how it had been. It seemed this was how it was supposed to be, it belonged to my life path. Had I really been so small and unremarkable? At 70 kilos, and 179 centimetres tall, I must have been visible enough, I couldn’t really be overlooked. Something must have been wrong with my perception all those years ago. Somehow, my on-board computer must have been incorrectly programmed. I had obviously entered incorrect data into my navigation device. Something inside me had been saved incorrectly, and it kept making statements that did not correspond to reality. Mostly it was all about things that had happened in the past, and that was what I lived by. I didn’t know what I was doing. I allowed outside factors to control my life, factors that were far removed from my actual existence. That was the way it was. I lived like this for many years, without making any changes. I did not understand the situation myself, and I obviously had no wish to change it. It ran on automatically, no questions asked, without me having to do anything. It had become more interesting than I was myself.
Putting myself at the back of the queue and keeping quiet was something I had learned as a child. After a very long time, I had finally identified this influence within me, which had nothing to do with the here and now. The worst thing was that it didn’t even come from me.
After I realised this, I began to search for images in my own language. I lived according to my own feelings and allowed myself to be carried by them. A new form of consciousness developed inside me, and I was in absolute agreement with it. For the first time in my life, I had a feeling of honesty deep within me. I sensed that everything that was happening around me was happening for a reason. I noticed that I had a lot of catching up to do I still had an awful lot to learn.
My daily experiences showed me the way, all I had to do was to recognise it. That was the beautiful thing about it it simply happened. From now on, I understood that my life could only be lived by myself, and that I was the only person who could change the things that needed to be changed. I just had to do it I had to get up out of my armchair and set off on my way.
I am the beginning and the end at the same time, and for others I may lead the way to a discovery.
I AM LIFE.
Being alone
It annoyed me that I was continually dominated by my thoughts:
So what are you going to do now?
That is so boring.
It is pointless.
Now you’re hanging around on your own again.
No-one comes to visit you.
No-one helps you.
I didn’t know what to do. However, one day I noticed: I am not alone! It is my thoughts that keep telling me I am alone, convincing me that it is true. They should take care of their own business; I don’t need them around me all the time. They are more annoying than helpful. What they are good at is stirring up fear, anger and despair. It seems to be their hobby. But I am really not so keen on feeling afraid every day. was. When one fear reared its head, the next one was sure to follow, and then the next until towers of fear had built up, and they could bury you alive. Without the fears, I was able to clearly recognise the truth again: I have myself and the day and time itself, there is always something to do. Sometimes I didn’t know where to begin. The activity I found most pleasant and fulfilling was getting on my bike and cycling three kilometres through the forest to the lake. Meanwhile, I have come to think of this lake as belonging to me, because I go there every day. The animals at the lake and the forest birds that come out in the evening know me now. They pass me as though I were not even there. They are busy picking at the mosquitoes and flies, having their evening meal in the last rays of the sun before it disappears behind the trees. I just sit there, with my back against the trunk of a birch tree, and watch the play of colours in the sky, the reflection of the trees at the other side of the lake in the water. I watch the white clouds gently moving and listen to the chorus of birds singing, or the chattering of the ducks. I often spend the evening at the lake, in a silence that is not silent at all. There is so much to see, hear and experience every day, it is every bit as interesting as going to see a good film at the cinema.
The more I allowed peace and stillness into my life, the more interesting the details became. I had needed some time to understand that what was happening at this precise moment was what made up my experience in here and now. If I accepted it exactly as it was, it brought me peace and serenity. And it was and is simply wonderful to make this self-discovery, to observe without passing judgement. I watched things as they happened, I let them happen and enjoyed seeing how easy everything was. This first special experience at the lake showed me more clearly than ever how beautiful nature is in its reality and variety, in the way it constantly reinvents itself. Over time I had learned to immerse myself in the stillness, ignoring anything unreal and simply being there in the moment. I left all illusions behind me. With my eyes open, I saw nothing and felt everything an encounter with true reality, just as it should be everything is simply there, and we do not even notice that the moment is gently slipping by.
Once again, my thoughts were always busy devising new ways of distracting me. At the very moment when I came into contact with my feelings, they would destroy the pleasant situation without further ado. However, over time I began to understand my ego’s play of thoughts. I learned to accept it and at the same time to ignore it. From then on, I was able to feel the healing link between internal and external nature without the shining on my face, its warmth flowing through the whole of my body.
Two colourful crickets landed softly on the tip of my right shoe. They spread their wings downwards and lowered their heads. I could sense that they were really enjoying the position they were in. Almost lost in the silence, I noticed eleven small black flies on my left trouser leg, basking in the evening sun. I had the sensation of being so close to nature that I was part of it. I breathed in and out quietly and evenly, drawing the air deep into my body. The small lake lay before me, sparkling with all the colours of the rainbow. The myriad reflections and refractions of light on the surface of the water, caused by the combination of wind and sun, were a constant source of fascination to me. I could have watched this spectacle of nature for hours on end. At this moment I felt that time stood still as the events unrolled before me. I didn’t notice that a small black-and-white lady dog had taken a seat beside me, looking at me dreamily with her large, dark brown eyes. I suppose she was looking at the same thing as I was, enjoying it in her own way. The loud, demanding voice of her owner startled us and brought us back to reality. The dragonflies flew away and the flies had disappeared. The sweet little dog turned her head back and forth, as if to say “It was nice sitting with you, see you next time.”
Then she took herself off reluctantly. The owner of the dog apologised and said she hoped Emma had not disturbed me. I smiled at her and thought to myself: I would welcome this kind of pleasant disturbance any time.
Someone else had been waiting for this moment for a long time my ego, of course, which always wanted to push itself into the forefront, talk to me, tell me some kind of story that I had already heard a hundred times before. Ego stories are always the same, whatever detail. Sometimes, my fear imposed such strict controls on me that I was close to despair. I found out what my ego intended to achieve with this constant drone of thoughts. It was a well-thought-out manoeuvre to distract me, with an unrecognised attempt at deception that led to self-delusion: all other people and material things were to be elevated to a higher level of importance than I attached to myself. My ego and my thoughts did not really know me. We all lived together in my body, but they ignored the existence of another important element – they wanted nothing to do with my feelings, which are one of the most vital aspects of my being. Thoughts and the ego cannot feel; emotions are strangers to them.
However, if all aspects fail to work together, something deeply important is denied to us: empathy. If we are governed only by our ego and our thoughts, we develop to become sterile mechanisms. This was how my zest for life had gone astray, the dynamic power and energy that is so important for a healthy body and an upright existence. I had dug my own grave by denying myself access to my own self. In so doing, I had allowed the air I needed to breathe to be taken away from me figuratively speaking, I had been keeping myself in sterile conditions as though I were reliant on breathing apparatus. The thinking part of me only passed those things on to me that were essential for my existence. Within this mechanism, which was given over to the control of others, my life had been perfectly regulated. No willpower, opinion or feeling was necessary. I often heard the words “you are speaking like an insensitive ape”. There seemed to be some truth in these words. Leading this kind of existence had cleared the path for all kinds of ailments. The plethora of feelingless thoughts took all my strength and energy perfect conditions for allergies or dementia, and plain sailing for large numbers of bacteria. Because my immune system broke down, my unprotected organs were susceptible to decay.
It was only a question of time. Step by step I became aware of these connections, the monstrous dominance of my thoughts and the unavoidable effects this had on my body and organs. What I needed was peace and quiet so that I could find out who I was.
If we think that peace and quiet are paramount to boredom, we are much mistaken. It requires a huge effort to keep our own thoughts under control. Thinking is capable of learning, and it can be freed from its old reflexes. It often gets stuck in old patterns and does not wish to give them up under any circumstances; it is definitely not willing to accept anything that is variable or new. We often unconsciously adopt the traditional patterns of our parents or grandparents, we cannot find our way out of the hamster wheel. These behaviour patterns usually begin in childhood and control us for our whole lives, hindering our development. However, if we become conscious of these mechanisms and recognise the unquestioned patterns for what they are, we can free ourselves from their constraints. We can eradicate them altogether or change them in such a way that they are under the control of our own conscious decisions. Self-recognition is the key.
I believe that there is no better way of taking care of our soul and making it feel at ease again. It will thank us with good health, the most valuable gift we have, with happiness and love thrown in as an additional bonus. Back to the lake. I sit there for two or three hours every day, sometimes in the morning, sometimes in the evening. However busy the day is, I can always manage to find some time to myself. If my thoughts won’t leave me alone and keep trying to force me into conversation, I ignore them and pick up a book. Then they leave me in peace, at least for a while. When I have done enough reading, I try to train my eyes to look across the lake. This often helps me to forget my thoughts for a moment. These moments are always the most pleasurable as twilight approaches. The more often I do it, the easier it becomes. It is possible, it is all a matter of practice! It is like learning to read, you begin with letters, then you put them together to form words, and finally sentences actually it is easy. Like everything, it just takes time. learned how to deal with my thoughts so that they were no longer able to make all the decisions. The time of the storyteller inside my head was over at last the day had come when I could hear the voice of my true self, which was far more interesting and rewarding. I no longer had to concern myself with pale imitations of yesterday or the day before. At last something had happened to me that I had needed for so long I had found the vision of my real self, the one I was happy to find beside me when I went walking inside my head. In this newfound freedom, there was now space for something that goes hand in hand with a zest for life pure feeling. I experienced it deep inside, in all variations. It showed me who I was in quite a different and unique way, carried by my own very personal something that goes hand in hand with a zest for life pure feeling. I experienced it deep inside, in all and unique way, carried by my own very personal instinct, which took control. Without being attached in my thoughts to some abstract external thing or another, I relaxed and followed this instinct. If I concentrated on it, really willing it to happen, it almost happened of its own accord. Suddenly I was in the midst of time, experiencing nothing but myself, going with the flow. I can hardly express this new life experience in words. Sometimes I had tears in my eyes, without knowing why. The feeling inside me unexpectedly merged with various situations, and I suddenly felt deep sympathy and I suddenly felt deep sympathy with the people and events around me.
I experienced so many emotions in any given twenty-four hours that made up a day. I began to feel passionate about my own emotional potential, and my self-worth grew.
If you let go of your ego, your body will have the chance to heal
FEELING IS A DAILY EXPERIENCE.
Expectations
For many years, everything I did had some kind of condition attached to it. As we often say, “This is what you are getting from me, what do I get in return? If you have nothing to give me, you cannot expect to get anything from me!” Today, I find this way of thinking dangerous. I discovered that expectations give rise to internal pressure that stays with you for an indefinite period of time. It creates stress, discontent, envy, indisposition and even fear, together with the compulsion to make a good deal.
What reinforces this thing inside me?
What makes me so confused when nothing is happening?
Why do I always have to get something in return?
My fearful ego is the culprit, causing my soul to suffer. It forces me to demand something in return, something that is even greater than what I have given. It tries to convince me that it is not acceptable to give something without getting anything back. You always have to make sure you receive more than you give, otherwise it is not worth the effort. It claims it has only your interests at heart. How are you going to be happy and contented if you do not receive gifts? You will never find out what love is, you will always be lonely! How good my ego is at twisting the truth! I believed it for years, following its advice to the letter! Subconsciously, my expectations constantly grew, until one day there was a huge crash. Disappointment had been mounting up inside me, leading to feelings of hatred and anger that I had to suppress. Because of this, I suffered from a deep depression for a long period of time.
Conditional expectations should be avoided, otherwise you will find you are deeply disappointed by many things that happen in life. They make you become yet more controlling, or you might even give up. We should avoid conditions; we should grant freedom to ourselves and others. All of our actions should be unconditional, no matter who they are for and why. Unconditional acceptance is the only path that leads to open-hearted freedom. It fills things with love, so that everything can flourish and grow. It creates and fulfils the self-evident nature of life. There is no maybe, no some time. There is only the herald now. Incomprehensible as it may seem,
