Coping E-Book

Rubin Battino

• Herausgeber: Crown House Publishing
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 264

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2001

Beschreibung

A practical guide for those living with or dealing with life-challenging diseases. Coping features a wide range of techniques and exercises that have proved to have a healing influence. " An excellent source of information and wisdom" Bernie Siegel MD, author of Love, Medicine & Miracles and Prescriptions for Living

Leseprobe

CopingA Practical Guide for People with Life-Challenging Diseases and their Caregivers

Rubin Battino, M.S.

Mental Health Counseling, Adjunct Professor, Department of Human Services (Counseling) Wright State University

Illustrations by Mario Uribe

Dedication This book is dedicated to my friend Carol E. Dixon for her help in shaping this book, her years of service to Hospice of Dayton, and simply for her friendship.

Table of Contents

Title Page

Dedication

Preface

Foreword

Contributors

Chapter 1 Introduction

1.1 Introduction

1.2 Disease/Cure and Illness/Healing

1.3 Complementary and Nontraditional Approaches: Alternative Medicine and Therapies

1.4 David Spiegel’s Research

1.5 Summary

Chapter 2 Relaxation Methods

2.1 Introduction

2.2 Jacobson’s Progressive Relaxation

2.3 Benson’s Relaxation Response Method

2.4 Meditation

2.5 How to Relax

2.6 Relaxation Script

2.7 Healing Presence Imagery Script

2.8 Healing Light Imagery Script

2.9 Healing Hands Imagery Script

2.10 Summary

Chapter 3 Support Groups

3.1 Introduction

3.2 David Spiegel’s Breast Cancer Support Groups

3.3 Exceptional Cancer Patient (ECaP) Groups

3.4 The Charlie Brown Exceptional Patient Support Group (Dayton)

3.5 Residential and other Support Groups

Chapter 4 Journaling, Structured Writing, Videotaping, Art Therapy, and Ceremonies

4.1 Introduction

4.2 Journaling

4.3 Structured Writing—A Workbook for People who have Cancer or other Life-Challenging Disease

4.4 Structured Writing—A Workbook for Grieving

4.5 Structured Writing—A Workbook for Caregivers

4.6 Videotaping and Autobiographies

4.7 Art Therapy

4.8 Cancer or other Serious Disease as a Gift

4.9 Rituals and Ceremonies

Chapter 5 Varieties of Coping

5.1 Introduction

5.2 LeShan on How to Survive in a Hospital

5.3 Milstein’s Coping Suggestions and Comments

5.4 Communicating with Medical Personnel

5.5 Helplessness, Hopelessness, and Control

5.6 ‘Mechanical’ Matters, Wills, etc

5.7 Communicating with Others—Relationships

5.8 Support Networks

5.9 Counseling and Psychotherapy

5.10 Prayer and Religious Support

5.11 Helping Others

5.12 Massage

5.13 Information Sources

5.14 Controlling Medication

5.15 Pain Management

5.16 Nutrition

5.17 Physical Exercise

5.18 Acupuncture

5.19 Hypnosis

5.20 Talking to a Comatose Patient

5.21 Grieving

5.22 Meditation and Relaxation

5.23 Ideomotor Signaling

5.24 Simplicity

5.25 Laughter

5.26 Dying Well

5.27 Living Well

5.28 Doka’s Phases of a Life-Challenging Disease

5.29 Hammerschlag’s Recommendations

5.30 Summary

Chapter 6 Nutrition and Life-Challenging Diseases

6.1 Introduction: Lifestyle and an Integrated Approach

6.2 Prevention

6.3 Nutrition for Controlling or Curing a Disease

6.4 Summary

Chapter 7 Beyond Coping

Appendix A Questions for People in their Dying Time

Appendix B Some Relevant Websites and Phone Numbers

Appendix C Patient’s Bill of Rights

Appendix D The Wellness Community Patient/Oncologist Statement

Appendix E Living Will Declaration (State of Ohio)

Appendix F Christian Affirmation of Life

Appendix G The Christian Living Will

Appendix H Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care (Ohio)

References

Index

Copyright

Preface

At last night’s meeting of our exceptional patient support group there were three new members: a man in his late sixties with a recent diagnosis of cancer, his wife of over forty years, and one of his sons. Attending the support group was just one of the many things Sam (not his real name) and his family are doing. They are seeking second and third opinions at major cancer centers, and they have begun the arduous search for information on his particular cancer. What else can Sam and his wife and family do? Fortunately, at this stage, Sam’s attitude is upbeat and hopeful. Feeling hopeful enhances the body’s capacity to fight disease. Feeling hopeless and helpless and out of control diminishes this capacity. This book is a compendium of the many ways you can cope (rhymes with hope!) with a diagnosis of, living with, and fighting a life-challenging disease. There are many things that Sam and his caregivers can do to face this challenge. The Viennese psychiatrist Viktor E. Frankl has pointed out that we have no control over what challenges life may present us, but we always have the choice of how we will respond. This book is also about choice.

The introductory chapter covers some material about the words we use, like useful distinctions between disease and illness, and also between curing and healing. The scientific evidence for attitude being helpful, as manifested in David Spiegel’s work on support groups, provides the basis for recommending the many varieties of coping discussed later in the book. Relaxation has been shown to enhance the body’s defenses—Chapter Two is about several relaxation methods. This chapter ends with a few scripts for relaxation. (A recording of these scripts by the author is available.) Support groups are described and discussed in Chapter Three. Groups come in many styles and formats—you are urged to find one that feels comfortable to you.

Chapter Four contains the beginning of activities that are helpful for coping. These include journaling or writing in a diary, several structured writing instruments that are designed to organize your thinking, the use of videotaping and autobiographies, art therapy, and rituals and ceremonies. Some of these activities you would do alone, whilst others require organizing with other people.

The heart of this book is Chapter Five where many varieties of coping are discussed, some in much detail. How do you survive in a hospital, cope with insurance companies, communicate with family and friends and medical personnel, set up a support network, and live and die well? In the Alice-in-Wonderland world of a serious disease, many things change in your life. These are not only the physical manifestations of the disease, but also relationships with others and, most importantly, your sense of self. Chapter Five provides guidance in dealing with these matters.

Nutrition is always important. The knowledge and experience of H. Ira Fritz, Ph.D. in this area is a plus. There are many appendices with helpful information including: a sample living will, a sample durable power of attorney for health care, and websites and phone numbers of resources.

Mario Uribe’s illustrations provide a pleasant punctuation of the many themes in this book. Mario and I talked about this project over fifteen years ago, and it is wonderful to have him ‘illuminate’ the text.

Members of the Charlie Brown Exceptional Patient Support Group of Dayton have been helpful in reading some portions of the material, but mainly in their love and support of me as a person. Jane Brown has read the book in its entirety and her comments were helpful. Bernie Siegel supplied a number of useful suggestions. K’Anna Burton’s sharing of her surgery story is appreciated. I owe special thanks to my friend Carol E. Dixon. Her comments, based on her experience in helping establish and administer hospice of Dayton, shaped the style and content of this book. Almost every page bears the mark of her suggestions.

Your comments are always welcome. My e-mail address is: [email protected].

Rubin Battino Yellow Springs, Ohio

Foreword

Rubin and I met at a Milton Erickson Congress some years ago. Milton was an American psychiatrist and genius hypnotherapist who translated Freud’s great insight about the unconscious determinants of behavior into practical applications that changed people’s behaviors. His great talent was in finding a common language of symbols and stories that spoke directly to every patient’s unconscious. He helped people understand how to create new endings to old stories by using indirect suggestion, prescribing rituals, even ordeals, and creating sacred objects.

I first visited Milton in the 1970s after working for several years with Native American people. It was in Indian country that I first became exposed to the use of ceremony, myths and symbols in the healing process, and it was Milton who helped me make sense of what I was seeing. Connect with people and you can trigger the mind to abandon old certainties with new possibilities. This is also what Rubin has done in this book.

This is a guide for making connections with people facing serious illness and for those who care for them. It is a practical handbook that uses symbols, ceremonies and science to help people confront their realities and gain new perspectives in dealing with them. It will prepare the mind, body and spirit to face life challenges. This is a book about healing and not curing, about coming to every day as if it has something to teach us.

I encourage you to use the material in this book and customize it in ways that make sense to you. You can share it or send it to friends. It is intended as a gift, and if it works, let Rubin know how you’ve used it. The bibliography and websites are also useful references that will promote joy on your healing journey.

Carl A. Hammerschlag, M.D.

Contributors

Rubin Battino, M.S.

Rubin has a private practice in Yellow Springs and teaches courses for the Department of Human Services at Wright State University where he holds the rank of adjunct professor. This book is based in part on one of those courses. Rubin has over eight years of experience as a volunteer facilitator in a Bernie Siegel style support group for people who have life-challenging diseases and those who support them, together with many years of experience in individual work with people who have life-challenging diseases. He is President of the Milton H. Erickson Society of Dayton and co-author with T.L. South, Ph.D., of Ericksonian Approaches: A Comprehensive Manual, a basic text on Ericksonian hypnotherapy and psychotherapy. Rubin has also written Guided Imagery and Other Approaches to Healing. He is Professor Emeritus of Chemistry at Wright State University.

H. Ira Fritz, Ph.D.

Ira received his B.A. in Zoology and his Ph.D. in Nutrition from the University of California at Davis. He was an NIH Postdoctoral Fellow at the University of Pennsylvania. He has taught nutrition at the University of Pennsylvania and at Wright State University. His 35 years of teaching experience have included undergraduate, graduate, nursing, veterinary, and medical students. He is currently Professor Emeritus in the Department of Biochemistry and Molecular Biology at Wright State University. He is also Core Faculty Professor at the Union Institute in Cincinnati, Ohio. Ira authored the chapter on nutrition in Guided Imagery and Other Approaches to Healing.

Mario Uribe

Mario Uribe has been drawing and painting since he was three years old. He attended The California Institute of the Arts on a full scholarship, and graduated in 1971. Since then, he has worked as a professional artist with more than 25 years of specializing in the health care field. His paintings, murals, prints, and sculpture help create healing environments in hospitals and clinics from Anchorage, Alaska to San Diego, California. He has won several mural competitions in California, his native state, and his works form part of both private and public museum collections around the world. He is an ardent lifetime student of traditional Japanese arts like calligraphy, tea ceremony and theater. Mario and his wife Liz travel often to Japan as teachers and guides for The American School of Japanese Arts.