Stop acting like a f*cking victim for once E-Book

Nico Quindt

• Herausgeber: Nico Quindt
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 60

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2023

Beschreibung

You've been deceived with sweet-sounding lies all this time (all those other books, except this one, of course). In this one, I'll tell you the unvarnished truth. Because of those lies you believed about happiness, motivation, and personal growth, you've continuously acted like a victim. They filled your ears with flawed concepts that sounded enlightening and which you liked hearing. But tell me, how much have you grown since the last self-help book you read? How much more do you love yourself since that self-esteem and motivation course? Probably not much. And do you know why? Because you're likely like me: someone who wants to grow, but dislikes being spun around with cheesy words, lies, and fantasies. Someone who can only work on their personal development based on accepting the hard truth, and who wants to understand the real reasons for their failure, not unproven tales we have no control over.You have two options:Move on and read another self-help book with those clichéd titles that almost coddle you, telling you it's not your fault, that you should spread love to the world, float in the air while meditating on a cloud of joy and happiness, thinking positive thoughts to attract a mansion, a private jet, fame, and the perfect family...For once, take control of your destiny, brace yourself for what this book has to say, and courageously assume responsibility for your circumstances because that's the only way to grow.The self-help book that tells you exactly what you don't want to hear. It's time someone confronted you with the truth; stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop acting like a pathetic victim of life, and start taking control of your destiny. This book won't offer indulgence or soothing words, only the emotional slap that will jolt you out of your comfort zone and push you towards the life you deserve... But if you prefer to keep playing the victim, go ahead, nothing's stopping you... Victims never succeed; they just get fleeting attention. What do you prefer? A sympathetic pat on the back or reaching the peak of your potential? It's your choice...

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Nico Quindt

STOP ACTING LIKE A FUCKING VICTIM FOR ONCE

STOP ACTING LIKE A FUCKING VICTIM FOR ONCE

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ISBN: 9783988659712

You Must Succeed, There Is No Other Option

It's astounding that at this point in human evolution, there still are people who victimize themselves over everything, but indeed, they exist. I aimed to deliver a slap to the soul of anyone who read my book "What Are You Going to Do with the Time You Have Left?" And my readers have labeled me as egotistical, cruel, ill-mannered, arrogant, intolerant, and a host of other descriptive terms. We are amidst the peak of the era of the offended; victims of every kind have emerged due to a collective impotence and a society that has ceased to champion the phrase "You can do it" as its main mantra because they see it as too cliché and feel too helpless, lost, and disoriented. So, they choose to become part of something: the widespread foolishness, seeking shelter among the imbeciles that abound in the world, who, by the way, provide a space if you first, of course, offer the group your obedience and hand over control of your thoughts.

That's what animals do when they are scared: they band together. But no matter how protected you feel within the herd, deep down you know you're a coward, incapable of confronting your true challenges.

High self-esteem is viewed as a crime, and self-love turns you into the most vain, arrogant, and egocentric being in the world. You'll face ongoing attacks if you dare love yourself or think differently from the herd.

Victimhood has turned into a lifestyle that increasingly garners more and more followers. It's easy to adopt, and even easier to promote: it serves the interests of those in power, governments, religions... if you don’t think, you don’t challenge, you don't question, you remain stagnant and obedient.

And so, your brain rests, and meanwhile, creativity sleeps, ideas agonize, and your purpose, your drive, dies.

It's about time you take control of your life once and for all, and I won't waste time on trivialities because I believe if you're reading this book, you're either sharp-witted or you're simply exhausted from mediocrity and yearn for a leap forward in your mindset.

Shitty Life

Two things happen: we're constantly playing the victim or we become fanatically focused on success.

We think we've taken the reins when, in reality, we're just striving to be accepted by society, approved by others, admired by our parents, envied by our friends, and loved by our partners.

For the longest time, we were victims, losers, puppets of circumstances, but one day we read a financial education book and set out to seek wealth. Not because that was our purpose, or because we wanted to do something meaningful with that money. No, it's not that. It's simply because we need the approving gaze of all those who underestimated us, because we need to prove our worth. We stopped being pathetic victims and transformed into a ball of materialistic resentment lacking self-esteem. But now that we have money, that's our shield against the criticisms from others, and we now have retorts for them:

“If you were so smart, you'd be rich like me.”

“I have money and you don't.”

Coincidentally, these are the same responses once thrown at us.

We give these answers and walk away pridefully, believing we've won a pointless battle against a non-existent rival. Without realizing, we now live with a latent fear of losing what we have because our strength lies in that wealth. If we lose it, we revert to being nobodies again, and that terrifies us. So, we begin to view everyone who approaches us with suspicion, thinking, "they surely want something, they want to take away what I have." We hire security guards, isolate ourselves, mistrust everyone, and, of course, we don't spend an extra penny. We try to amass as much money as possible because if it ever ran out, we couldn't bear to return to being that pathetic victim of life and circumstances.

We have everything, yet we're not happy. Precisely because we've been chasing someone else's happiness, what we were told would make us happy, what was imposed upon us as the benchmark of success, instead of exploring what the hell we wanted for ourselves.

What does this have to do with not acting like a victim? You might ask, nothing. But since I'm the writer, I do as I please. I stopped caring about what the reader wants to read a long time ago. I just wanted to make a point: ceasing to act like a victim doesn't mean you should start acting like an idiot.

The Pressure of Success on Your Shoulders

We live under the pressure of the success that society demands. We feel obligated to justify why we're failing, the mistakes we made to be poor, and the tragic events that prevented us from succeeding. This kind of covert pressure, of which we're rarely aware, morphs into an unspoken and indescribable anxiety that makes us uneasy. We might have had the best day of our lives, yet we still feel that something's amiss. Such dissatisfaction causes us to lose focus, prioritizing what others expect from us over what we expect from ourselves. We delegate to friends and relatives the assessment of our present and the planning of our future. No matter how good or happy I feel in my life, if someone else claims I'm doing poorly, their judgment holds more weight. We're subjected to external criticisms and demands that don't consider our personal interpretation. And there we go, trying to prove our worth to the rest of humanity, as if they truly cared.

If you're an employee earning a minimum wage looking to escape poverty:

You'll spend 20 years saving to buy land.

Another 20 to buy a house.

Then another 10 years saving up to buy a vehicle.

Before you realize it, you're 50 with only three material possessions to your name. You have 10 years left to enjoy them before you pass away. What kind of nonsense is that?

We've been told repeatedly that we must succeed, that we must be important, that we must achieve success. So, we seek what society and the system deem as success because we need to fit in; we're terrified of not meeting their expectations or of standing out.

"You won't find the right partner if you're not wealthy," "no one wants to spend time with a failed friend," "you won't achieve your dreams unless you're famous."

That pressure and anxiety we feel at night when we conclude that we're not successful is neither mere anguish nor simple sadness or anger. It's an indescribable feeling reminding us that there's always someone more famous, wealthier, more talented, and cooler than you.